Soon

Israel was not created in order to disappear – Israel will endure and flourish. It is the child of hope and the home of the brave. It can neither be broken by adversity nor demoralized by success. It carries the shield of democracy, and it honors the sword of freedom.

–John F. Kennedy

וזה לא משנה אם באמצע החיים או באמצע משחק כדורגל
כולם יעזבו את הכל בשנייה אם יקרא להם הדגל
And it doesn't matter if in the middle of life or in the middle of a soccer game,
Everyone will drop everything in a second if the flag calls out to them

–Assaf Peri and Omri Glickman - Tikvah 6 

אֶשָּׂא עֵינַי, אֶל-הֶהָרִים-- מֵאַיִן, יָבֹא עֶזְרִי
עֶזְרִי, מֵעִם יְהוָה-- עֹשֵׂה, שָׁמַיִם וָאָרֶץ

I will lift up mine eyes unto the mountains: from whence shall my help come?
My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.

–Psalms 121

I waited until after October 7 to write again. 

I dreaded the day - a day of agony and loss and fear. 

Most days, I get up early in the mornings, before daybreak. I watch the sun rise over the houses and trees from my front yard. I listen to the songbirds sing and the crows caw.
I wait for the garbage truck that passes my house every morning at precisely the same time, and I know the day has truly begun when the second bus of the day passes full of early-morning workers.
I've been getting up this early since I retired, more or less, which seems to be contradictory, but I love this time of day. I don't have to rush anywhere, nobody needs my attention, my coffee remains hot while I'm sipping it. 
Yesterday morning, however, I didn't hear the birds or crows. I didn't notice the garbage truck or bus. All I heard were far off booms and up close sirens. 
Of course, all the booms and sirens were in my head. I knew that they were but echoes, but they were very loud and very clear. 
And so, I decided something that, in fact, I had decided long ago. 
I was not going to memorialize October 7. 

I did not watch any of the scores of videos that peppered my Whatsapp, Facebook page, or email inbox. I didn't watch any of the specials, or 'newly released footage', or documentaries. I didn't listen to any interviews with soldiers, released hostages, or the families. I didn't read newspaper articles, or editorials. I didn't look at pictures of the murdered, or of hostages, or of fallen soldiers. I didn't pour over lists of names. 

Neither did I go to any of the half dozen memorial ceremonies held in various places around the city, nor to any prayer meeting, or reading of Psalms, or sad-song concert.
Nor did I go to either of the two funerals held in Beer Sheva yesterday of two victims of two separate terrorist attacks. 

Instead, I watched really dumb sitcoms, and a Youtube video of bloopers on Gilligan's Island, and Facebook reels of laughing babies. I talked to my sons - home on leave from the Northern front (and all that entails). I read a book about siblings, and played games on my phone, and wrote a few emails to old friends. I washed dishes, put away laundry, filed away some recipes, hung up some clothes.  
I scrolled through pictures of family vacations (where was this taken?), and of past Purims and remembered the time I sewed four different capes for four different costumes. 

Soon, hopefully soon, I'll get through these mundane chores without checking the news in the middle, without stopping to breathe, without forgetting to breathe.   
Soon, hopefully soon, I won't jump at every passing motorcycle or panic when someone knocks on the door. 
And soon, hopefully soon, I'll stop weeping in my sleep and crying in those wonderful early mornings.

אָמֵן, כֵּן יְהִי רָצוֹן
Amen, May it be Your Will. 

Please take a moment to say a prayer for our Holy Land, our Holy soldiers and for our hostages, may they return home quickly and in health.

Our Father who is in heaven, Protector and Redeemer of Israel, bless the State of Israel, the dawn of our deliverance. Shield it beneath the wings of Your love; spread over it Your canopy of peace; send Your light and Your truth to its leaders, officers, and counselors, and direct them with Your good counsel.

Strengthen the defenders of our Holy Land; grant them, our God, salvation and crown them with victory. Establish peace in the land, and everlasting joy for its inhabitants. Remember our brethren, the whole house of Israel, in all the lands of their dispersion. Speedily bring them to Zion, Your city, to Jerusalem Your dwelling-place, as it is written in the Torah of Your servant Moses:
Even if you are dispersed in the uttermost parts of the world, from there the Lord your God will gather and fetch you. The Lord your God will bring you into the land which your ancestors possessed, and you shall possess it; and God will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your ancestors.
He Who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob — may He bless the fighters of the Israel Defense Forces, who stand guard over our land and the cities of our God, from the border of the Lebanon to the desert of Egypt, and from the Great Sea unto the approach of the Aravah, on the land, in the air, and on the sea. 

אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, צוּר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹאֲלוֹ, בָּרֵךְ אֶת מְדִינַת יִשְׂרָאֵל, רֵאשִׁית צְמִיחַת גְּאֻלָּתֵנוּ. הָגֵן עָלֶיהָ בְּאֶבְרַת חַסְדֶּךָ, וּפְרֹשׁ עָלֶיהָ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ, וּשְׁלַח אוֹרְךָ וַאֲמִתְּךָ לְרָאשֶׁיהָ, שָׂרֶיהָ וְיוֹעֲצֶיהָ, וְתַקְּנֵם בְּעֵצָה טוֹבָה מִלְּפָנֶיךָ. חַזֵּק אֶת יְדֵי מְגִנֵּי אֶרֶץ קָדְשֵׁנוּ, וְהַנְחִילֵם אֱלֹהֵינוּ יְשׁוּעָה וַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחוֹן תְּעַטְּרֵם, וְנָתַתָּ שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ וְשִׂמְחַת עוֹלָם לְיוֹשְׁבֶיהָ.
וְאֶת אַחֵינוּ כָּל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל פְּקָד-נָא בְּכָל אַרְצוֹת פְּזוּרֵיהֶם, וְתוֹלִיכֵם מְהֵרָה קוֹמְמִיּוּת לְצִיּוֹן עִירֶךָ וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם מִשְׁכַּן שְׁמֶךָ, כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת משֶׁה עַבְדֶּךָ: “אִם יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמַיִם, מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ. וֶהֱבִיאֲךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר יָרְשׁוּ אֲבֹתֶיךָ וִירִשְׁתָּהּ, וְהֵיטִבְךָ וְהִרְבְּךָ מֵאֲבֹתֶיךָ.
וְיַחֵד לְבָבֵנוּ לְאַהֲבָה וּלְיִרְאָה אֶת שְׁמֶךָ, וְלִשְׁמֹר אֶת כָּל דִּבְרֵי תּוֹרָתֶךָ. וּשְׁלַח לָנוּ מְהֵרָה בֶּן דָּוִד מְשִׁיחַ צִדְקֶךָ, לִפְדּות מְחַכֵּי קֵץ יְשׁוּעָתֶךָ. הוֹפַע בַּהֲדַר גְּאוֹן עֻזֶּךָ עַל כָּל יוֹשְׁבֵי תֵּבֵל אַרְצֶךָ, וְיֹאמַר כֹּל אֲשֶׁר נְשָׁמָה בְּאַפּוֹ: “ה’ אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל מֶלֶךְ, וּמַלְכוּתו בַּכּל מָשָׁלָה”. אָמֵן סֶלָה.

  

May the Almighty cause the enemies who rise up against us to be struck down before them.
May the Holy One, Blessed is He, preserve and rescue our fighters from every trouble and distress and from every plague and illness, and may He send blessing and success in their every endeavor.
May He lead our enemies under our soldiers’ sway and may He grant them salvation and crown them with victory. And may there be fulfilled for them the verse: For it is the Lord your God, Who goes with you to battle your enemies for you to save you.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב הוּא יְבָרֵךְ אֶת חַיָּלֵי צְבָא הֲגַנָּה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, הָעוֹמְדִים עַל מִשְׁמַר אַרְצֵנוּ וְעָרֵי אֱלֹהֵינו מִגְּבוּל הַלְּבָנוֹן וְעַד מִדְבַּר מִצְרַיִם וּמִן הַיָּם הַגָּדוֹל עַד לְבוֹא הָעֲרָבָה בַּיַּבָּשָׁה בָּאֲוִיר וּבַיָּם. יִתֵּן ה’ אֶת אוֹיְבֵינוּ הַקָּמִים עָלֵינוּ נִגָּפִים לִפְנֵיהֶם. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִשְׁמֹר וְיַצִּיל אֶת חַיָלֵינוּ מִכָּל צָרָה וְצוּקָה וּמִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה וְיִשְׁלַח בְּרָכָה וְהַצְלָחָה בְּכָל מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵיהֶם. יַדְבֵּר שׂוֹנְאֵינוּ תַּחְתֵּיהֶם וִיעַטְרֵם בְּכֶתֶר יְשׁוּעָה וּבַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחון. וִיקֻיַּם בָּהֶם הַכָּתוּב: כִּי ה’ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם הַהֹלֵךְ עִמָּכֶם לְהִלָּחֵם לָכֶם עִם אֹיְבֵיכֶם לְהוֹשִׁיעַ אֶתְכֶם: וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן:

 

May it be the will of our Father in heaven,
Who brought His people Israel out from the suffering of Egypt
That He bless and save our abducted brothers and sisters.
Bound with iron chains,
May He strengthen their souls and faith,
Protect them from all harm and disease,
Have mercy on His sons and daughters awaiting His salvation.
Nullify all cruel decrees from upon them
In His great kindness, may He hasten their redemption,
And may they quickly emerge from darkness to light,
And from the pit of captivity to the freedom of the world.
And return in peace to their families and to their homes,
Please, plant brotherhood, peace and friendship in the hearts of all
Remove envy and baseless hatred,
And spread over us the Sukkah of Your peace
And may we merit to soon sing before You a ‘New Song.

יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלִּפְנֵי אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם
אֲשֶׁר הוֹצִיא אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִתַּחַת סִבְלוֹת מִצְרַיִם
הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וְיִנְצֹר אֶת אַחֵינוּ וְאַחְיוֹתֵינוּ
הַחֲטוּפִים הָאֲסוּרִים בְּכַבְלֵי בַּרְזֶל
,יְחַזֵּק נַפְשָׁם וֶאֱמוּנָתָם
,יִשְׁמְרֵם מִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה
,יַחְמֹל עַל בָּנָיו וּבְנוֹתָיו הַמְּצַפִּים לִישׁוּעָתוֹ
.יְבַטֵּל מֵעֲלֵיהֶם כָּל גְּזֵרוֹת אַכְזָרִיּוֹת
בְּחַסְדּוֹ הַגָּדוֹל יָחִישׁ פְּדוּתָם וְיֵצְאוּ מְהֵרָה מֵאֲפֵלָה לְאוֹרָה
וּמִבּוֹר הַשְּׁבִי לְחֵרוּת עוֹלָם וְיָשׁוּבוּ לְשָׁלוֹם אֶל מִשְׁפְּחוֹתֵיהֶם וְאֶל בָּתֵּיהֶם
,אָנָּא, נֶטַע אַחֲוָה שָׁלוֹם וְרֵעוּת בְּלֵב כֻּלָּם
הָסֵר קִנְאָה וְשִׂנְאַת חִנָּם וּפְרֹס עָלֵינוּ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ
.וְנִזְכֶּה בְּקָרוֹב לוֹמַר לְפָנֶיךָ שִׁירָה חֲדָשָׁה

 

On Briskets and Honey

Let us proclaim the mighty holiness of this day, for it is awe-inspiring and fearsome.

—from the Unetaneh Tokef Prayer

And the Lord your God will circumcise your heart, and the heart of your seed, to love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, that you may live.

— Deuteronomy 30:6

Every way of a man is right in his own eyes; but the Lord weighs the hearts.

— Proverbs 21:2

Some foods will improve your meal, your mood, your day, your buttered noodles. Brisket will improve your life.
— Stephanie Pierson, in “The Brisket Book”

In another week, the Jewish year 5784 will end, and the year 5785 will begin. 

As in every other year, I'm busy checking things off my various multi-hued to-do lists; some are excel files, some word documents, and one or two are in pencil scribbled on the back of a bill from the grocery store. 

Shopping lists, cleaning list, baking lists, cooking lists. 
I like to be organized. 

The truth is that, despite this year's holiday being, in practice, three days (because it is adjacent to Shabbat), I don't have that much to do BECAUSE it's three days and most of my kids can't take being home for so long. Another truth is that I don't know if I could take them being home that long either.

Unfortunately, this year's Rosh HaShana is different from other years in more than just being three days. Almost a year after the Hamas pogrom on October 7th, we are still facing a fanatical, brutal, blood-thirsty, brainwashed enemy, bent on our destruction. 

How do we walk leisurely to 'shul' showing off our holiday outfits when our cities are still under missile attack (though in the south, it is MUCH reduced)?
How do we eat our brisket and tzimmis when our people are still being held, starved and tortured, in the airless terror tunnels of Hamas?
How do we dip an apple in honey, wishing each other a good and sweet year, when our sons and daughters are still fighting in the bloody battlefields of Gaza (and soon Lebanon) with a determination and heroism that is unimaginable and indescribable?

Can we simply munch on honey cake as Israel is being vilified around the world, and Jews around the globe are being harassed, attacked, and defamed simply for existing? 

It is so terrifying and seemingly hopeless. Yet, all we can do is hope (and pray) that this will be a better year. 

Another truth is that to have a better year is within our power. 

In this week's Torah reading, Nitzavim, we read "And the Lord your God will circumcise your heart..."

How can a heart be circumcised?

A child is circumcised on the eighth day of life as part of the covenant between God and His people. Why couldn't he just be born circumcised? why go through the whole ritual? The answer is that God wants us to be partners with Him in this world. In the same way that cookies don't grow directly from trees, rather we take the God-given flour and eggs and water (and chocolate chips) and create something even greater ourselves; so too the circumcision allows us to take what God has given us and heighten our spirituality and connect us directly to God. 

On the Shabbat right before Rosh HaShana, we ask God to circumcise our hearts. In the same way that a physical circumcision heightens our spirituality, we ask God to remove any impurities from our hearts – the bad thoughts, the impatience, the hate, the evil inclinations – so that we can be kinder, softer, more loving, thereby heightening our spirituality and connection to God.

Rosh HaShana is not only about brisket and honey and forgiveness. It is about standing up and promising to do better. 

Years ago, I was told that we don't need to try to be perfect. All we need to do is to concentrate on one good trait and to work on it to the benefit of others. If you are creative and love to craft, be more creative and design and create for others. If you are a funny person, use that to cheer others up. If you like to drive, look for opportunities to give lifts to those who need. If you are good at business, make sure to help out others by employing them or teaching them. 

And always, search for opportunities to be kind. 

Let God circumcise your heart so that you can be kind—always. 

Evil is surrounding us, threatening to engulf us. We need to replace that evil with good—with kindness, with hope, with love.
Our sages teach us that every person should see the world as a scale, equally balanced between good and evil. If he does one good deed, the world will tip to merit blessings, but if he commits an evil deed, the world will tip and be cursed.
And so, we all need to do a bit more; give more, pray more, reach out more, love more. Be kind.

Wishing all of the People of Israel a good and sweet year.

Please take a moment to say a prayer for our Holy Land, our Holy soldiers and for our hostages, may they return home quickly and in health.

Our Father who is in heaven, Protector and Redeemer of Israel, bless the State of Israel, the dawn of our deliverance. Shield it beneath the wings of Your love; spread over it Your canopy of peace; send Your light and Your truth to its leaders, officers, and counselors, and direct them with Your good counsel.

Strengthen the defenders of our Holy Land; grant them, our God, salvation and crown them with victory. Establish peace in the land, and everlasting joy for its inhabitants. Remember our brethren, the whole house of Israel, in all the lands of their dispersion. Speedily bring them to Zion, Your city, to Jerusalem Your dwelling-place, as it is written in the Torah of Your servant Moses:
Even if you are dispersed in the uttermost parts of the world, from there the Lord your God will gather and fetch you. The Lord your God will bring you into the land which your ancestors possessed, and you shall possess it; and God will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your ancestors.
He Who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob — may He bless the fighters of the Israel Defense Forces, who stand guard over our land and the cities of our God, from the border of the Lebanon to the desert of Egypt, and from the Great Sea unto the approach of the Aravah, on the land, in the air, and on the sea. 

אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, צוּר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹאֲלוֹ, בָּרֵךְ אֶת מְדִינַת יִשְׂרָאֵל, רֵאשִׁית צְמִיחַת גְּאֻלָּתֵנוּ. הָגֵן עָלֶיהָ בְּאֶבְרַת חַסְדֶּךָ, וּפְרֹשׁ עָלֶיהָ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ, וּשְׁלַח אוֹרְךָ וַאֲמִתְּךָ לְרָאשֶׁיהָ, שָׂרֶיהָ וְיוֹעֲצֶיהָ, וְתַקְּנֵם בְּעֵצָה טוֹבָה מִלְּפָנֶיךָ. חַזֵּק אֶת יְדֵי מְגִנֵּי אֶרֶץ קָדְשֵׁנוּ, וְהַנְחִילֵם אֱלֹהֵינוּ יְשׁוּעָה וַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחוֹן תְּעַטְּרֵם, וְנָתַתָּ שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ וְשִׂמְחַת עוֹלָם לְיוֹשְׁבֶיהָ.
וְאֶת אַחֵינוּ כָּל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל פְּקָד-נָא בְּכָל אַרְצוֹת פְּזוּרֵיהֶם, וְתוֹלִיכֵם מְהֵרָה קוֹמְמִיּוּת לְצִיּוֹן עִירֶךָ וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם מִשְׁכַּן שְׁמֶךָ, כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת משֶׁה עַבְדֶּךָ: “אִם יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמַיִם, מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ. וֶהֱבִיאֲךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר יָרְשׁוּ אֲבֹתֶיךָ וִירִשְׁתָּהּ, וְהֵיטִבְךָ וְהִרְבְּךָ מֵאֲבֹתֶיךָ.
וְיַחֵד לְבָבֵנוּ לְאַהֲבָה וּלְיִרְאָה אֶת שְׁמֶךָ, וְלִשְׁמֹר אֶת כָּל דִּבְרֵי תּוֹרָתֶךָ. וּשְׁלַח לָנוּ מְהֵרָה בֶּן דָּוִד מְשִׁיחַ צִדְקֶךָ, לִפְדּות מְחַכֵּי קֵץ יְשׁוּעָתֶךָ. הוֹפַע בַּהֲדַר גְּאוֹן עֻזֶּךָ עַל כָּל יוֹשְׁבֵי תֵּבֵל אַרְצֶךָ, וְיֹאמַר כֹּל אֲשֶׁר נְשָׁמָה בְּאַפּוֹ: “ה’ אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל מֶלֶךְ, וּמַלְכוּתו בַּכּל מָשָׁלָה”. אָמֵן סֶלָה.

  

May the Almighty cause the enemies who rise up against us to be struck down before them.
May the Holy One, Blessed is He, preserve and rescue our fighters from every trouble and distress and from every plague and illness, and may He send blessing and success in their every endeavor.
May He lead our enemies under our soldiers’ sway and may He grant them salvation and crown them with victory. And may there be fulfilled for them the verse: For it is the Lord your God, Who goes with you to battle your enemies for you to save you.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב הוּא יְבָרֵךְ אֶת חַיָּלֵי צְבָא הֲגַנָּה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, הָעוֹמְדִים עַל מִשְׁמַר אַרְצֵנוּ וְעָרֵי אֱלֹהֵינו מִגְּבוּל הַלְּבָנוֹן וְעַד מִדְבַּר מִצְרַיִם וּמִן הַיָּם הַגָּדוֹל עַד לְבוֹא הָעֲרָבָה בַּיַּבָּשָׁה בָּאֲוִיר וּבַיָּם. יִתֵּן ה’ אֶת אוֹיְבֵינוּ הַקָּמִים עָלֵינוּ נִגָּפִים לִפְנֵיהֶם. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִשְׁמֹר וְיַצִּיל אֶת חַיָלֵינוּ מִכָּל צָרָה וְצוּקָה וּמִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה וְיִשְׁלַח בְּרָכָה וְהַצְלָחָה בְּכָל מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵיהֶם. יַדְבֵּר שׂוֹנְאֵינוּ תַּחְתֵּיהֶם וִיעַטְרֵם בְּכֶתֶר יְשׁוּעָה וּבַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחון. וִיקֻיַּם בָּהֶם הַכָּתוּב: כִּי ה’ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם הַהֹלֵךְ עִמָּכֶם לְהִלָּחֵם לָכֶם עִם אֹיְבֵיכֶם לְהוֹשִׁיעַ אֶתְכֶם: וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן:

 

May it be the will of our Father in heaven,
Who brought His people Israel out from the suffering of Egypt
That He bless and save our abducted brothers and sisters.
Bound with iron chains,
May He strengthen their souls and faith,
Protect them from all harm and disease,
Have mercy on His sons and daughters awaiting His salvation.
Nullify all cruel decrees from upon them
In His great kindness, may He hasten their redemption,
And may they quickly emerge from darkness to light,
And from the pit of captivity to the freedom of the world.
And return in peace to their families and to their homes,
Please, plant brotherhood, peace and friendship in the hearts of all
Remove envy and baseless hatred,
And spread over us the Sukkah of Your peace
And may we merit to soon sing before You a ‘New Song.

יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלִּפְנֵי אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם
אֲשֶׁר הוֹצִיא אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִתַּחַת סִבְלוֹת מִצְרַיִם
הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וְיִנְצֹר אֶת אַחֵינוּ וְאַחְיוֹתֵינוּ
הַחֲטוּפִים הָאֲסוּרִים בְּכַבְלֵי בַּרְזֶל
,יְחַזֵּק נַפְשָׁם וֶאֱמוּנָתָם
,יִשְׁמְרֵם מִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה
,יַחְמֹל עַל בָּנָיו וּבְנוֹתָיו הַמְּצַפִּים לִישׁוּעָתוֹ
.יְבַטֵּל מֵעֲלֵיהֶם כָּל גְּזֵרוֹת אַכְזָרִיּוֹת
בְּחַסְדּוֹ הַגָּדוֹל יָחִישׁ פְּדוּתָם וְיֵצְאוּ מְהֵרָה מֵאֲפֵלָה לְאוֹרָה
וּמִבּוֹר הַשְּׁבִי לְחֵרוּת עוֹלָם וְיָשׁוּבוּ לְשָׁלוֹם אֶל מִשְׁפְּחוֹתֵיהֶם וְאֶל בָּתֵּיהֶם
,אָנָּא, נֶטַע אַחֲוָה שָׁלוֹם וְרֵעוּת בְּלֵב כֻּלָּם
הָסֵר קִנְאָה וְשִׂנְאַת חִנָּם וּפְרֹס עָלֵינוּ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ
.וְנִזְכֶּה בְּקָרוֹב לוֹמַר לְפָנֶיךָ שִׁירָה חֲדָשָׁה

 

This Too

We say peace and the echo comes back from the other side, war. We don't want wars even when we win.
—Golda Meir

I am all peace; but when I speak, they are for war.
—Psalm 120:7

Fear you not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am your God; I strengthen you, yea, I help you; yea, I uphold you with My victorious right hand.
—Isaiah 41:10

And David said to Solomon his son: 'Be strong and of good courage, and do it; fear not, nor be dismayed; for the Lord God, even my God, is with you; He will not fail you, nor forsake you, until all the work for the service of the house of the Lord be finished.
—Chronicles 28:20

How long does it take to heal a broken heart? 

How long before the tears stop?

How long before sleep comes blissfully and not fitfully?

How long until 'this' too shall pass?

During the Hebrew month of Elul – the month preceding the Jewish New Year – it is customary to recite daily the 27th Psalm. It begins The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Words that seem particularly apt in this last month of the year of 5784. 

The Psalm – attributed to King David – continues with the plea to God, "that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life." King David, in other words, asks God to let him learn Torah and worship God and not make him be King. But King he is. And though destined to be Israel's greatest king, David is not even allowed to build the Great Temple to God, let alone live in it. 

Recently, these words struck home in a curious way.

Since October 7th (and indeed for much of history) Israel (and Jews) have been vilified, slandered, misrepresented, and misunderstood.

Throughout the ages and throughout the globe, Jews have been told 'you don't belong here', to 'go back where you came from!' Jews were put into ghettoes, taxed harshly, tortured, forced converted, massacred. 

But throughout the ages, while clinging to their identity, their beliefs and values, Jews have wanted and requested only one thing: to 'dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of our lives'.

All we request is to be left alone. 

Had we been left alone in Europe, in the Levant, in North Africa, and now even in the Americas, and not slandered, and discriminated against, libeled, and massacred, we would have stayed.
But we weren't left alone. 

Therefore, when we were able, we came home to our Land. 

And in our Land, all we want is to be left alone.
If we are left alone, there would be no wars, no refugees, no bloodshed. 

Instead, had we been left alone, there would be more oranges, and cherry tomatoes, and vaccines, and cures for disease, and great literature, and drop-down menus, and laughter, and joy, and peace. 

All King David wanted was to learn Torah and be with God, but God said no.
King David went on to fight for his People, for his Land, for his God and be the greatest king in history. 

Sometimes, no is the correct answer, even the best answer.
Even when it is the heartbreaking answer.  

After King David, his son, Solomon, ushered in an era of peace over the Land, building the Great Temple in Jerusalem and causing the name of Israel, and God, to be known far and wide.

We don't know the answers to the questions above, but we do know that the situation we find ourselves in today will pass, and we, the Nation of Israel, will emerge - brokenhearted, scarred, in agony - to a different world that we cannot envision. 
We don't have a King David today, but we do have a nation of Superheroes, and we will survive and build — and dance — again. 

Because the Nation of Israel lives. 

Psalms Chapter 27
1 [A Psalm] of David. The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
2 When evil-doers came upon me to eat up my flesh,
even mine adversaries and my foes, they stumbled and fell.
3 Though a host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear;
though war should rise up against me, even then will I be confident.
4 One thing have I asked of the LORD, that will I seek after:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life,
to behold the graciousness of the LORD, and to visit early in His temple.
5 For He conceals me in His pavilion in the day of evil;
He hides me in the covert of His tent; He lifts me up upon a rock.
6 And now shall my head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me; and I will offer in His tabernacle sacrifices with trumpet-sound; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the LORD.
7 Hear, O LORD, when I call with my voice, and be gracious unto me, and answer me.
8 In Your behalf my heart has said: 'Seek you My face'; your face, LORD, will I seek.
9 Hide not Your face from me; put not Your servant away in anger;
Thou hast been my help; cast me not off, neither forsake me, O God of my salvation.
10 For though my father and my mother have forsaken me, the LORD will take me up.
11 Teach me Your way, O LORD; and lead me in an even path, because of them that lie in wait for me.
12 Deliver me not over unto the will of my adversaries; for false witnesses are risen up against me, and such as breathe out violence.
13 If I had not believed to look upon the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living!
14 Wait on the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage; yea, wait thou for the LORD. 

לְדָוִד ה’ אוֹרִי וְיִשְׁעִי מִמִּי אִירָא ה’ מָעוֹז חַיַּי מִמִּי אֶפְחָד:
בִּקְרֹב עָלַי מְרֵעִים לֶאֱכֹל אֶת בְּשָׂרִי צָרַי וְאֹיְבַי לִי הֵמָּה כָשְׁלוּ וְנָפָלוּ:
אִם תַּחֲנֶה עָלַי מַחֲנֶה לֹא יִירָא לִבִּי אִם תָּקוּם עָלַי מִלְחָמָה בְּזֹאת אֲנִי בוֹטֵחַ:
אַחַת שָׁאַלְתִּי מֵאֵת ה’ אוֹתָהּ אֲבַקֵּשׁ שִׁבְתִּי בְּבֵית ה’ כָּל יְמֵי חַיַּי לַחֲזוֹת בְּנֹעַם ה’ וּלְבַקֵּר בְּהֵיכָלוֹ:
כִּי יִצְפְּנֵנִי בְּסֻכֹּה בְּיוֹם רָעָה יַסְתִּרֵנִי בְּסֵתֶר אָהֳלוֹ בְּצוּר יְרוֹמְמֵנִי:
וְעַתָּה יָרוּם רֹאשִׁי עַל אֹיְבַי סְבִיבוֹתַי וְאֶזְבְּחָה בְאָהֳלוֹ זִבְחֵי תְרוּעָה אָשִׁירָה וַאֲזַמְּרָה לַיהוָה:
שְׁמַע ה’ קוֹלִי אֶקְרָא וְחָנֵּנִי וַעֲנֵנִי:
לְךָ אָמַר לִבִּי בַּקְּשׁוּ פָנָי אֶת פָּנֶיךָ ה’ אֲבַקֵּשׁ:
אַל תַּסְתֵּר פָּנֶיךָ מִמֶּנִּי אַל תַּט בְּאַף עַבְדֶּךָ עֶזְרָתִי הָיִיתָ אַל תִּטְּשֵׁנִי וְאַל תַּעַזְבֵנִי אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׁעִי:
הוֹרֵנִי ה’ דַּרְכֶּךָ וּנְחֵנִי בְּאֹרַח מִישׁוֹר לְמַעַן שׁוֹרְרָי:
אַל-תִּתְּנֵנִי, בְּנֶפֶשׁ צָרָי כִּי קָמוּ בִי עֵדֵי שֶׁקֶר וִיפֵחַ חָמָס:
לוּלֵא הֶאֱמַנְתִּי לִרְאוֹת בְּטוּב ה’ בְּאֶרֶץ חַיִּים:
קַוֵּה אֶל ה’ חֲזַק וְיַאֲמֵץ לִבֶּךָ וְקַוֵּה אֶל ה’:

Please, take a moment to say a prayer for our Holy Land, our Holy soldiers and for our hostages, may they return home quickly and in health

Our Father who is in heaven, Protector and Redeemer of Israel, bless the State of Israel, the dawn of our deliverance. Shield it beneath the wings of Your love; spread over it Your canopy of peace; send Your light and Your truth to its leaders, officers, and counselors, and direct them with Your good counsel.

Strengthen the defenders of our Holy Land; grant them, our God, salvation and crown them with victory. Establish peace in the land, and everlasting joy for its inhabitants. Remember our brethren, the whole house of Israel, in all the lands of their dispersion. Speedily bring them to Zion, Your city, to Jerusalem Your dwelling-place, as it is written in the Torah of Your servant Moses:
Even if you are dispersed in the uttermost parts of the world, from there the Lord your God will gather and fetch you. The Lord your God will bring you into the land which your ancestors possessed, and you shall possess it; and God will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your ancestors.
He Who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob — may He bless the fighters of the Israel Defense Forces, who stand guard over our land and the cities of our God, from the border of the Lebanon to the desert of Egypt, and from the Great Sea unto the approach of the Aravah, on the land, in the air, and on the sea. 

אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, צוּר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹאֲלוֹ, בָּרֵךְ אֶת מְדִינַת יִשְׂרָאֵל, רֵאשִׁית צְמִיחַת גְּאֻלָּתֵנוּ. הָגֵן עָלֶיהָ בְּאֶבְרַת חַסְדֶּךָ, וּפְרֹשׁ עָלֶיהָ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ, וּשְׁלַח אוֹרְךָ וַאֲמִתְּךָ לְרָאשֶׁיהָ, שָׂרֶיהָ וְיוֹעֲצֶיהָ, וְתַקְּנֵם בְּעֵצָה טוֹבָה מִלְּפָנֶיךָ. חַזֵּק אֶת יְדֵי מְגִנֵּי אֶרֶץ קָדְשֵׁנוּ, וְהַנְחִילֵם אֱלֹהֵינוּ יְשׁוּעָה וַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחוֹן תְּעַטְּרֵם, וְנָתַתָּ שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ וְשִׂמְחַת עוֹלָם לְיוֹשְׁבֶיהָ.
וְאֶת אַחֵינוּ כָּל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל פְּקָד-נָא בְּכָל אַרְצוֹת פְּזוּרֵיהֶם, וְתוֹלִיכֵם מְהֵרָה קוֹמְמִיּוּת לְצִיּוֹן עִירֶךָ וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם מִשְׁכַּן שְׁמֶךָ, כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת משֶׁה עַבְדֶּךָ: “אִם יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמַיִם, מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ. וֶהֱבִיאֲךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר יָרְשׁוּ אֲבֹתֶיךָ וִירִשְׁתָּהּ, וְהֵיטִבְךָ וְהִרְבְּךָ מֵאֲבֹתֶיךָ.
וְיַחֵד לְבָבֵנוּ לְאַהֲבָה וּלְיִרְאָה אֶת שְׁמֶךָ, וְלִשְׁמֹר אֶת כָּל דִּבְרֵי תּוֹרָתֶךָ. וּשְׁלַח לָנוּ מְהֵרָה בֶּן דָּוִד מְשִׁיחַ צִדְקֶךָ, לִפְדּות מְחַכֵּי קֵץ יְשׁוּעָתֶךָ. הוֹפַע בַּהֲדַר גְּאוֹן עֻזֶּךָ עַל כָּל יוֹשְׁבֵי תֵּבֵל אַרְצֶךָ, וְיֹאמַר כֹּל אֲשֶׁר נְשָׁמָה בְּאַפּוֹ: “ה’ אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל מֶלֶךְ, וּמַלְכוּתו בַּכּל מָשָׁלָה”. אָמֵן סֶלָה.

  

May the Almighty cause the enemies who rise up against us to be struck down before them.
May the Holy One, Blessed is He, preserve and rescue our fighters from every trouble and distress and from every plague and illness, and may He send blessing and success in their every endeavor.
May He lead our enemies under our soldiers’ sway and may He grant them salvation and crown them with victory. And may there be fulfilled for them the verse: For it is the Lord your God, Who goes with you to battle your enemies for you to save you.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב הוּא יְבָרֵךְ אֶת חַיָּלֵי צְבָא הֲגַנָּה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, הָעוֹמְדִים עַל מִשְׁמַר אַרְצֵנוּ וְעָרֵי אֱלֹהֵינו מִגְּבוּל הַלְּבָנוֹן וְעַד מִדְבַּר מִצְרַיִם וּמִן הַיָּם הַגָּדוֹל עַד לְבוֹא הָעֲרָבָה בַּיַּבָּשָׁה בָּאֲוִיר וּבַיָּם. יִתֵּן ה’ אֶת אוֹיְבֵינוּ הַקָּמִים עָלֵינוּ נִגָּפִים לִפְנֵיהֶם. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִשְׁמֹר וְיַצִּיל אֶת חַיָלֵינוּ מִכָּל צָרָה וְצוּקָה וּמִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה וְיִשְׁלַח בְּרָכָה וְהַצְלָחָה בְּכָל מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵיהֶם. יַדְבֵּר שׂוֹנְאֵינוּ תַּחְתֵּיהֶם וִיעַטְרֵם בְּכֶתֶר יְשׁוּעָה וּבַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחון. וִיקֻיַּם בָּהֶם הַכָּתוּב: כִּי ה’ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם הַהֹלֵךְ עִמָּכֶם לְהִלָּחֵם לָכֶם עִם אֹיְבֵיכֶם לְהוֹשִׁיעַ אֶתְכֶם: וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן:

 

May it be the will of our Father in heaven,
Who brought His people Israel out from the suffering of Egypt
That He bless and save our abducted brothers and sisters.
Bound with iron chains,
May He strengthen their souls and faith,
Protect them from all harm and disease,
Have mercy on His sons and daughters awaiting His salvation.
Nullify all cruel decrees from upon them
In His great kindness, may He hasten their redemption,
And may they quickly emerge from darkness to light,
And from the pit of captivity to the freedom of the world.
And return in peace to their families and to their homes,
Please, plant brotherhood, peace and friendship in the hearts of all
Remove envy and baseless hatred,
And spread over us the Sukkah of Your peace
And may we merit to soon sing before You a ‘New Song.

יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלִּפְנֵי אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם
אֲשֶׁר הוֹצִיא אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִתַּחַת סִבְלוֹת מִצְרַיִם
הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וְיִנְצֹר אֶת אַחֵינוּ וְאַחְיוֹתֵינוּ
הַחֲטוּפִים הָאֲסוּרִים בְּכַבְלֵי בַּרְזֶל
,יְחַזֵּק נַפְשָׁם וֶאֱמוּנָתָם
,יִשְׁמְרֵם מִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה
,יַחְמֹל עַל בָּנָיו וּבְנוֹתָיו הַמְּצַפִּים לִישׁוּעָתוֹ
.יְבַטֵּל מֵעֲלֵיהֶם כָּל גְּזֵרוֹת אַכְזָרִיּוֹת
בְּחַסְדּוֹ הַגָּדוֹל יָחִישׁ פְּדוּתָם וְיֵצְאוּ מְהֵרָה מֵאֲפֵלָה לְאוֹרָה
וּמִבּוֹר הַשְּׁבִי לְחֵרוּת עוֹלָם וְיָשׁוּבוּ לְשָׁלוֹם אֶל מִשְׁפְּחוֹתֵיהֶם וְאֶל בָּתֵּיהֶם
,אָנָּא, נֶטַע אַחֲוָה שָׁלוֹם וְרֵעוּת בְּלֵב כֻּלָּם
הָסֵר קִנְאָה וְשִׂנְאַת חִנָּם וּפְרֹס עָלֵינוּ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ
.וְנִזְכֶּה בְּקָרוֹב לוֹמַר לְפָנֶיךָ שִׁירָה חֲדָשָׁה

 

One Smile at a Time

When you're smilin', when you're smilin'
The whole world smiles with you
When you're laughin', when you're laughin'
The sun comes shinin' through
―Larry Shay, Mark Fisher, and Joe Goodwin.

Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone.
―Stanley Gordon West

The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief.
―William Shakespeare

After spending most of a seemingly eternal summer in the war-torn Northern Negev, I took a day and spent it with family members in the Holy city of Jerusalem. Not that Jerusalem feels much less war-torn; soldiers everywhere, signs pointing to safe areas in all public buildings, many civilians packing a pistol, etc. etc.
But hey.

Said family member needed babysitting help as there is no nursery school during August, so war-torn or not, any excuse to play with babies.

What does a mother and an assistant babysitter do in the month of August with a two-year-old and an infant? They all go out for ice cream, of course.

 A seven-minute walk later, (here, I must stop and say a word about walking in Modern Day Jerusalem. Jerusalem is a miracle, truly, in many ways, but the most miraculous part is that no matter in which direction one walks, it is always uphill. Even when you turn around and walk back the same way you came, the sidewalk tilts [maybe from the weight of the walker and all that ice cream] and you are still walking uphill. But I digress.) we entered a lovely, air-conditioned ice cream parlour. With a dizzying number of flavours to choose from, it took us several minutes and a short chat with the manager – a 60ish year-old man who obviously knew his ice cream – to decide.
He told us to take our time, every flavour was delicious.
I told him that before the end of the world comes*, we needed to get ice cream.
He said, wise decision, but it wasn't the end of the world yet.
I said, I live in Beer Sheva. Maybe in Jerusalem it's not the end of the world.
He said, ah, that's different, here in Jerusalem, we laugh about such things. But in Beer Sheva, it's more serious.
I said, nah, we laugh about it also.
We both laughed.
And then we got our ice cream
(Belgian chocolate and Pistachio for those who are curious.)

*At that point in time, Iran had been threatening to attack Israel with all its might. It was to be a surprise attack. Any day now. We have been warned! Because, after all, as Iran told the world, Iran's ....... is bigger than Israel's.....!!! So, you just watch out, all you Israelis and your Mossad Agents Eli Kopter and Amit Nakesh!** Iran is angry.
The truth was that many people had, in fact, stocked up on water and cookies preparing for the worst. It was a tense time, with Israelis wondering if there would be a tomorrow, but spending today going to work, doing laundry (at least we would be destroyed in clean underwear), and eating ice cream.

**Puns on fictitious Mossad agents' names. Eli Kopter should be self-explanatory, while Amit Nakesh is a play on the Hebrew word 'hamitnakesh', which means assassin. (By the way, Amit Nakesh is a cousin to Amit Potzetz.) 

As we sat feeding a very happy toddler chocolate ice cream (he spurned the pistachio), my family member said to me, "Well, you've still got it"! 
I looked at her questioningly. "What, an ice cream mustache?"
"No, you can still flirt".  

I don't think I normally talk a lot a lot, but I was rendered speechless by that comment. 

To be clear, I was not flirting. I was REALLY not flirting. 

I was smiling. I was being friendly. I was talking to strangers. 

Because a few months ago, I decided that that was what I was going to do from now on. 

I'm normally not a particularly outgoing person, and I am not a very patient person. I sometimes get annoyed at small things (such as people leaving their shopping trolley on the diagonal in the supermarket aisle).
Fortunately, I don't usually show annoyance on the outside, but I'm all snarky and snarly on the inside, which can lead to all sorts of snarly stomach problems. But again, I digress. 

After the Hamas pogrom on October 7, Israelis (and Jews around the world) put aside their differences to fight a war of survival. Somehow, it seemed, everyone pitched in and helped out. The slogan was 'Together we will win' 'ביחד ננצח', and it seemed to be working.

Yet, as time passes, and the war drags on and on with no end in sight ― in the south and in the north and in the east ― some of that togetherness is wearing thin. 

Therefore, several months ago, I decided, as part of the war effort, that the very least I could do was to smile at people; and talk to strangers in a pleasant manner; and to laugh as much as possible. Maybe, in that way, some small part of the togetherness will hold fast. 

And so I smile.
I smile at the lady who parked her shopping trolley right across the entrance to the canned vegetable section at the store.
I smile at the teenager whose underwear is showing.
I smile at the small child picking his nose.
I especially smile at soldiers as I pass them in the street or in the mall. 

I talk to strangers too.
I told the lady in front of me at the store that I loved her necklace. Her face lit up. 
I asked the gentleman who was manhandling the cucumbers why they were so expensive, because they weren't good quality. He made up some answer on the spot as if he knew. 
And I try to laugh and make others laugh. 
I told the barista at the coffee shop that I wanted a cappuccino in the largest cup she had, and if she had a bucket that would be great. I got a pretty big smile from the overworked barista for that.  

And as time passes, the smiles and the small talk and the laughter get easier and easier. 

It's good for my soul. And my stomach. 

I wasn't going to write all this in a blogpost, especially the flirting part (though that part is pretty funny), but yesterday was the quasi holiday and one of the happiest days of the Jewish calendar, Tu B'Av (the 15th day of the month of Av), which comes exactly one week after Tisha B'Av (the 9th day of the month of Av), the saddest day in the Jewish calendar. 

These two days seem to be polar opposites. One is full of grief, where customs of mourning are kept; the other is joyful and full of music and dancing. However, both are based on historical events that occurred in our wanderings in the desert, predating Temple times by several hundred years, and are very connected.

It was on Tisha b’Av that the ‘spies’ returned from their mission in the Land of Canaan with a negative report about the Land that God had promised us. Because of this, and because of the lack of faith shown by the people, God declared that the date would be a day of mourning forever (or until the time of the Mashiach). The generation that left Egypt was destined to die in the desert. For the next 39 years in the desert, each year, on Tisha b’Av, the men of Israel would dig a trench and lie down in it. At sunrise, those who didn’t die in the night buried those who did.

In the 40th year in the desert, on the 9th of Av, the men dug their trench, but in the morning, there were no dead to be found. They thought that perhaps they had gotten the date wrong, so the next night, the 10th of Av, again the men dug a trench, and again there were no dead to bury in the morning. They continued to dig a trench until the 15th of Av, when, seeing the full moon and knowing the 9th had passed, they realized that the decree had been lifted, and the men would merit to enter the Land.

Since that time, many calamitous events, including, but not limited to, the Destruction of both our Holy Temples occurred on the 9th of Av, while Tu b’Av became a day of rejoicing, of song and dance, and of the lifting of evil decrees.

 
Our sages tell us that the Temple was destroyed due to ‘baseless hatred’, i.e., a hatred so deep that the actions committed in its name cause the hater to damage himself and his own more than the person that is hated.

Tu b’Av is called the holiday of love, and, while today it is celebrated with flowers and chocolate and romantic dates, its real purpose is to show ‘baseless love’, i.e., love that is given freely, without thoughts of repayment or gratification. Baseless love is doing things for others, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s hard, even when you don’t love.

It’s easy to see the bad in people, to be insulted, to disrespect, to disregard, to be indifferent, to feel snarky and snarly. It’s easy to hate.

It’s far, far more difficult to see beyond the differences and the hurt, to understand that everyone has baggage, and to treat others with the respect and the consideration that all God’s creations deserve.

If, on Tisha b’Av, our goal is to end, or at least control, baseless hatred, Tu B’Av has been given to us to commit ourselves to baseless love; one act, one kindness, one smile, one show of humanity, at a time.

Tu b’Av is not just the opposite of Tisha b’Av.
It is the answer to it.

And so, I smile. I smile as I let the lady with 17 items go before me in the 10-item line because she has a crying kid. And I smile and gesture 'go ahead' and let the car go before me in the street even though, clearly, I have the right-of-way. And next week, I'll think of another joke to make the overworked barista laugh. 

Because I want every day to be Tu B'Av—a day of rejoicing, of song and dance, and of the lifting of evil decrees.

One smile at a time. 

Please, take a moment to say a prayer for our Holy Land, our Holy soldiers and for our hostages, may they return home quickly and in health:

Our Father who is in heaven, Protector and Redeemer of Israel, bless the State of Israel, the dawn of our deliverance. Shield it beneath the wings of Your love; spread over it Your canopy of peace; send Your light and Your truth to its leaders, officers, and counselors, and direct them with Your good counsel.
Strengthen the defenders of our Holy Land; grant them, our God, salvation and crown them with victory. Establish peace in the land, and everlasting joy for its inhabitants. Remember our brethren, the whole house of Israel, in all the lands of their dispersion. Speedily bring them to Zion, Your city, to Jerusalem Your dwelling-place, as it is written in the Torah of Your servant Moses:
Even if you are dispersed in the uttermost parts of the world, from there the Lord your God will gather and fetch you. The Lord your God will bring you into the land which your ancestors possessed, and you shall possess it; and God will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your ancestors.
He Who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob — may He bless the fighters of the Israel Defense Forces, who stand guard over our land and the cities of our God, from the border of the Lebanon to the desert of Egypt, and from the Great Sea unto the approach of the Aravah, on the land, in the air, and on the sea. 

אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, צוּר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹאֲלוֹ, בָּרֵךְ אֶת מְדִינַת יִשְׂרָאֵל, רֵאשִׁית צְמִיחַת גְּאֻלָּתֵנוּ. הָגֵן עָלֶיהָ בְּאֶבְרַת חַסְדֶּךָ, וּפְרֹשׁ עָלֶיהָ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ, וּשְׁלַח אוֹרְךָ וַאֲמִתְּךָ לְרָאשֶׁיהָ, שָׂרֶיהָ וְיוֹעֲצֶיהָ, וְתַקְּנֵם בְּעֵצָה טוֹבָה מִלְּפָנֶיךָ. חַזֵּק אֶת יְדֵי מְגִנֵּי אֶרֶץ קָדְשֵׁנוּ, וְהַנְחִילֵם אֱלֹהֵינוּ יְשׁוּעָה וַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחוֹן תְּעַטְּרֵם, וְנָתַתָּ שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ וְשִׂמְחַת עוֹלָם לְיוֹשְׁבֶיהָ.
וְאֶת אַחֵינוּ כָּל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל פְּקָד-נָא בְּכָל אַרְצוֹת פְּזוּרֵיהֶם, וְתוֹלִיכֵם מְהֵרָה קוֹמְמִיּוּת לְצִיּוֹן עִירֶךָ וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם מִשְׁכַּן שְׁמֶךָ, כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת משֶׁה עַבְדֶּךָ: “אִם יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמַיִם, מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ. וֶהֱבִיאֲךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר יָרְשׁוּ אֲבֹתֶיךָ וִירִשְׁתָּהּ, וְהֵיטִבְךָ וְהִרְבְּךָ מֵאֲבֹתֶיךָ.
וְיַחֵד לְבָבֵנוּ לְאַהֲבָה וּלְיִרְאָה אֶת שְׁמֶךָ, וְלִשְׁמֹר אֶת כָּל דִּבְרֵי תּוֹרָתֶךָ. וּשְׁלַח לָנוּ מְהֵרָה בֶּן דָּוִד מְשִׁיחַ צִדְקֶךָ, לִפְדּות מְחַכֵּי קֵץ יְשׁוּעָתֶךָ. הוֹפַע בַּהֲדַר גְּאוֹן עֻזֶּךָ עַל כָּל יוֹשְׁבֵי תֵּבֵל אַרְצֶךָ, וְיֹאמַר כֹּל אֲשֶׁר נְשָׁמָה בְּאַפּוֹ: “ה’ אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל מֶלֶךְ, וּמַלְכוּתו בַּכּל מָשָׁלָה”. אָמֵן סֶלָה.

  

May the Almighty cause the enemies who rise up against us to be struck down before them.
May the Holy One, Blessed is He, preserve and rescue our fighters from every trouble and distress and from every plague and illness, and may He send blessing and success in their every endeavor.
May He lead our enemies under our soldiers’ sway and may He grant them salvation and crown them with victory. And may there be fulfilled for them the verse: For it is the Lord your God, Who goes with you to battle your enemies for you to save you.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב הוּא יְבָרֵךְ אֶת חַיָּלֵי צְבָא הֲגַנָּה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, הָעוֹמְדִים עַל מִשְׁמַר אַרְצֵנוּ וְעָרֵי אֱלֹהֵינו מִגְּבוּל הַלְּבָנוֹן וְעַד מִדְבַּר מִצְרַיִם וּמִן הַיָּם הַגָּדוֹל עַד לְבוֹא הָעֲרָבָה בַּיַּבָּשָׁה בָּאֲוִיר וּבַיָּם. יִתֵּן ה’ אֶת אוֹיְבֵינוּ הַקָּמִים עָלֵינוּ נִגָּפִים לִפְנֵיהֶם. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִשְׁמֹר וְיַצִּיל אֶת חַיָלֵינוּ מִכָּל צָרָה וְצוּקָה וּמִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה וְיִשְׁלַח בְּרָכָה וְהַצְלָחָה בְּכָל מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵיהֶם. יַדְבֵּר שׂוֹנְאֵינוּ תַּחְתֵּיהֶם וִיעַטְרֵם בְּכֶתֶר יְשׁוּעָה וּבַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחון. וִיקֻיַּם בָּהֶם הַכָּתוּב: כִּי ה’ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם הַהֹלֵךְ עִמָּכֶם לְהִלָּחֵם לָכֶם עִם אֹיְבֵיכֶם לְהוֹשִׁיעַ אֶתְכֶם: וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן:

 

May it be the will of our Father in heaven,
Who brought His people Israel out from the suffering of Egypt
That He bless and save our abducted brothers and sisters.
Bound with iron chains,
May He strengthen their souls and faith,
Protect them from all harm and disease,
Have mercy on His sons and daughters awaiting His salvation.
Nullify all cruel decrees from upon them
In His great kindness, may He hasten their redemption,
And may they quickly emerge from darkness to light,
And from the pit of captivity to the freedom of the world.
And return in peace to their families and to their homes,
Please, plant brotherhood, peace and friendship in the hearts of all
Remove envy and baseless hatred,
And spread over us the Sukkah of Your peace
And may we merit to soon sing before You a ‘New Song.

יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלִּפְנֵי אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם
אֲשֶׁר הוֹצִיא אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִתַּחַת סִבְלוֹת מִצְרַיִם
הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וְיִנְצֹר אֶת אַחֵינוּ וְאַחְיוֹתֵינוּ
הַחֲטוּפִים הָאֲסוּרִים בְּכַבְלֵי בַּרְזֶל
,יְחַזֵּק נַפְשָׁם וֶאֱמוּנָתָם
,יִשְׁמְרֵם מִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה
,יַחְמֹל עַל בָּנָיו וּבְנוֹתָיו הַמְּצַפִּים לִישׁוּעָתוֹ
.יְבַטֵּל מֵעֲלֵיהֶם כָּל גְּזֵרוֹת אַכְזָרִיּוֹת
בְּחַסְדּוֹ הַגָּדוֹל יָחִישׁ פְּדוּתָם וְיֵצְאוּ מְהֵרָה מֵאֲפֵלָה לְאוֹרָה
וּמִבּוֹר הַשְּׁבִי לְחֵרוּת עוֹלָם וְיָשׁוּבוּ לְשָׁלוֹם אֶל מִשְׁפְּחוֹתֵיהֶם וְאֶל בָּתֵּיהֶם
,אָנָּא, נֶטַע אַחֲוָה שָׁלוֹם וְרֵעוּת בְּלֵב כֻּלָּם
הָסֵר קִנְאָה וְשִׂנְאַת חִנָּם וּפְרֹס עָלֵינוּ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ
.וְנִזְכֶּה בְּקָרוֹב לוֹמַר לְפָנֶיךָ שִׁירָה חֲדָשָׁה

 

It's what we do

Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
No, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, and I've got all my love to give
And I'll survive, I will survive
–Gloria Gaynor

אנחנו עם של גיבורי-על
We are a nation of Super Heroes
–Omri Glikman, Hatikva 6

Lately, despite the fact that I have tried to stay away from the news, it chases me.
The headlines are so dark and difficult.
The world seems to be so hateful and so determined to destroy the Jewish nation.
I admit, that sometimes, I feel that maybe, this time, we'll run out of miracles.  

We are almost two weeks into the 'three weeks', the time between the 17th day of the month of Tammuz and the 9th day of the month of Av called ‘zman bein ha’meizarim”, literally the time between the straits – meaning the times between the troubles.

The 17 of Tammuz is the day the sin of the Golden Calf took place, of which we read in the book of Exodus. Moshe (Moses), having ascended Mount Sinai to receive the Torah from the Hand of God, did not return at the precise time that it was calculated that he should. The men of the Nation of Israel panicked and decided to craft another god – a calf made of gold – to hurry Moshe's return. But when asked to give up their gold and jewelry for the making of the golden calf, the women of the nation refused. They knew that Moshe would return. They knew that God had promised to bring them to the Land.

Instead, they gave their wealth to the building of the Mishkan (the Tabernacle).

The 9th of Av is the day that the Sin of the Spies took place; the episode when 'spies' were sent to 'spy' out the Land of Israel and return with a report to the people and is related in the Book of Numbers. Upon their return, the 'spies' reported that the Land could not be conquered and that the people should return to Egypt. Contrary to the men, however, the women didn’t cry and tear their clothes at the 'spies' report, rather they demanded to go up to the Land.
In last week’s Parshat Pinchas, and in this week’s Matot-Masei, we read about the daughters of Zlophchad who demanded their inheritance in the Land, because the Land was so important to the women.
The women didn’t die in the desert as the men did.

Women did not participate in either of these sins.

The women had greater faith than the men.

And for that reason (among others), Rosh Chodesh – the first day of each month – was given to the women as ‘their’ day. I’m not sure how we are supposed to celebrate Rosh Chodesh; some women wear new clothes or a special piece of jewelry, some take the day and go on an outing, and some don’t iron (me - but that doesn't really make it any different than the other 29 days of the month) or do other tasks they dislike.

Tonight is Rosh Chodesh Av - the beginning of the month of Av; a woman's holiday.

Rosh Chodesh Av is a very special Rosh Chodesh. It is the only Rosh Chodesh on which you are allowed to fast. Indeed, it is the only day on which Hallel is said that you are allowed to fast. This is because it is the anniversary of the death of Aharon HaCohen (Aaron the Priest) – one of the very few people in Tanach for whom the exact date of death is known. We read of his death in Parshat Masei, almost always read the Shabbat preceding Rosh Chodesh Av.

“And they (Bnei Yisrael) left from Kadesh, and pitched in Mount Hor, in the edge of the Land of Edom. And Aharon the priest went up into mount Hor at the commandment of the Lord, and died there, in the fortieth year after the children of Yisrael were come out of the land of Mizrayim, in the first day of the fifth month. And Aharon was a hundred and twenty-three years old when he died in Mount Hor.” (Numbers 33, 37-39)

With Aharon's death, the Clouds of Glory, which, our sages tell us, had protected the Nation of Israel from the hot sun and wild animals and even flattened mountains that were in their way as they travelled in the desert, left the camp, and suddenly the Nation of Israel was alone in the wilderness, unprotected for the first time.

 Aharon is described as a lover and pursuer of peace (ohev shalom v'rodef shalom). It was he who stopped the cycle of sibling rivalry so prevalent until then in the Torah. Unlike Moshe, and even Miriam, Aharon never blamed or put down others. He brought angry husbands and wives together; he reconciliated quarreling neighbors; he brought peace within all of the Nation. Our sages tell us that Aharon loved God, and therefore he loved God’s creations. Aharon would greet everyone that he met. A person wishing to sin would refrain, thinking “If I sin, how would I look Aharon in the eyes again.” Through his great love, Aharon brought God and Torah to the nation.
He was beloved of the people, even more so than his more famous brother, for it says “And they wept for Aharon thirty days, the whole House of Israel,” (BaMidbar 20:29), but for Moshe, upon his death it says 'the house of Israel' mourned him, leaving out the word 'whole'. Such is the sacrifice of leadership.

It was in his merit that the Nation of Israel was protected by the Clouds of Glory because it is kindness, and mercy, and love – most especially love – that ultimately protect us.
It is love of one another that protects the Nation of Israel.

It is only when we learn to live together, when we seek harmony and respect – despite differences in customs, colors, opinions, or shoe size;
when there is no reason to love, yet we love anyway – we are protected and undefeatable.

When we fight amongst ourselves, when we refuse to listen to or respect each other, when we put our own needs above the needs of others, God’s Clouds of Glory cannot protect us.

During these terrible times for the Nation of Israel, when we are surrounded by so much dark and baseless hate, it is more critical than ever to emulate these qualities of Aharon; To love peace and pursue it, to love our people, and to treat all with respect and kindness and in peace.

Faith gave us the Land. Kindness and Love protect us in it.

And, the headlines notwithstanding, I know that we will survive, that miracles don't, in fact, run out.

Our faith is strong. 

Despite the darkness around us, we will survive and thrive, continuing to be a light unto the nations. 

Because that's what we do. 

Because we are a nation of super-heroes.   

And to you women out there, this Rosh Chodesh, let us celebrate by loving our families and friends and our people, even when we don’t like them, and be extra kind, always.

May these days of destruction become days of joy quickly and in our time.

Please, take a moment to say a prayer for our Holy Land, our Holy soldiers and for our hostages, may they return home quickly and in health:

Our Father who is in heaven, Protector and Redeemer of Israel, bless the State of Israel, the dawn of our deliverance. Shield it beneath the wings of Your love; spread over it Your canopy of peace; send Your light and Your truth to its leaders, officers, and counselors, and direct them with Your good counsel.
Strengthen the defenders of our Holy Land; grant them, our God, salvation and crown them with victory. Establish peace in the land, and everlasting joy for its inhabitants. Remember our brethren, the whole house of Israel, in all the lands of their dispersion. Speedily bring them to Zion, Your city, to Jerusalem Your dwelling-place, as it is written in the Torah of Your servant Moses:
Even if you are dispersed in the uttermost parts of the world, from there the Lord your God will gather and fetch you. The Lord your God will bring you into the land which your ancestors possessed, and you shall possess it; and God will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your ancestors.
He Who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob — may He bless the fighters of the Israel Defense Forces, who stand guard over our land and the cities of our God, from the border of the Lebanon to the desert of Egypt, and from the Great Sea unto the approach of the Aravah, on the land, in the air, and on the sea. 

אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, צוּר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹאֲלוֹ, בָּרֵךְ אֶת מְדִינַת יִשְׂרָאֵל, רֵאשִׁית צְמִיחַת גְּאֻלָּתֵנוּ. הָגֵן עָלֶיהָ בְּאֶבְרַת חַסְדֶּךָ, וּפְרֹשׁ עָלֶיהָ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ, וּשְׁלַח אוֹרְךָ וַאֲמִתְּךָ לְרָאשֶׁיהָ, שָׂרֶיהָ וְיוֹעֲצֶיהָ, וְתַקְּנֵם בְּעֵצָה טוֹבָה מִלְּפָנֶיךָ. חַזֵּק אֶת יְדֵי מְגִנֵּי אֶרֶץ קָדְשֵׁנוּ, וְהַנְחִילֵם אֱלֹהֵינוּ יְשׁוּעָה וַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחוֹן תְּעַטְּרֵם, וְנָתַתָּ שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ וְשִׂמְחַת עוֹלָם לְיוֹשְׁבֶיהָ.
וְאֶת אַחֵינוּ כָּל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל פְּקָד-נָא בְּכָל אַרְצוֹת פְּזוּרֵיהֶם, וְתוֹלִיכֵם מְהֵרָה קוֹמְמִיּוּת לְצִיּוֹן עִירֶךָ וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם מִשְׁכַּן שְׁמֶךָ, כַּכָּתוּב בְּתוֹרַת משֶׁה עַבְדֶּךָ: “אִם יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמַיִם, מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ. וֶהֱבִיאֲךָ ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר יָרְשׁוּ אֲבֹתֶיךָ וִירִשְׁתָּהּ, וְהֵיטִבְךָ וְהִרְבְּךָ מֵאֲבֹתֶיךָ.
וְיַחֵד לְבָבֵנוּ לְאַהֲבָה וּלְיִרְאָה אֶת שְׁמֶךָ, וְלִשְׁמֹר אֶת כָּל דִּבְרֵי תּוֹרָתֶךָ. וּשְׁלַח לָנוּ מְהֵרָה בֶּן דָּוִד מְשִׁיחַ צִדְקֶךָ, לִפְדּות מְחַכֵּי קֵץ יְשׁוּעָתֶךָ. הוֹפַע בַּהֲדַר גְּאוֹן עֻזֶּךָ עַל כָּל יוֹשְׁבֵי תֵּבֵל אַרְצֶךָ, וְיֹאמַר כֹּל אֲשֶׁר נְשָׁמָה בְּאַפּוֹ: “ה’ אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל מֶלֶךְ, וּמַלְכוּתו בַּכּל מָשָׁלָה”. אָמֵן סֶלָה.

  

May the Almighty cause the enemies who rise up against us to be struck down before them.
May the Holy One, Blessed is He, preserve and rescue our fighters from every trouble and distress and from every plague and illness, and may He send blessing and success in their every endeavor.
May He lead our enemies under our soldiers’ sway and may He grant them salvation and crown them with victory. And may there be fulfilled for them the verse: For it is the Lord your God, Who goes with you to battle your enemies for you to save you.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב הוּא יְבָרֵךְ אֶת חַיָּלֵי צְבָא הֲגַנָּה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, הָעוֹמְדִים עַל מִשְׁמַר אַרְצֵנוּ וְעָרֵי אֱלֹהֵינו מִגְּבוּל הַלְּבָנוֹן וְעַד מִדְבַּר מִצְרַיִם וּמִן הַיָּם הַגָּדוֹל עַד לְבוֹא הָעֲרָבָה בַּיַּבָּשָׁה בָּאֲוִיר וּבַיָּם. יִתֵּן ה’ אֶת אוֹיְבֵינוּ הַקָּמִים עָלֵינוּ נִגָּפִים לִפְנֵיהֶם. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִשְׁמֹר וְיַצִּיל אֶת חַיָלֵינוּ מִכָּל צָרָה וְצוּקָה וּמִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה וְיִשְׁלַח בְּרָכָה וְהַצְלָחָה בְּכָל מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵיהֶם. יַדְבֵּר שׂוֹנְאֵינוּ תַּחְתֵּיהֶם וִיעַטְרֵם בְּכֶתֶר יְשׁוּעָה וּבַעֲטֶרֶת נִצָּחון. וִיקֻיַּם בָּהֶם הַכָּתוּב: כִּי ה’ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם הַהֹלֵךְ עִמָּכֶם לְהִלָּחֵם לָכֶם עִם אֹיְבֵיכֶם לְהוֹשִׁיעַ אֶתְכֶם: וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן:

 

May it be the will of our Father in heaven,
Who brought His people Israel out from the suffering of Egypt
That He bless and save our abducted brothers and sisters.
Bound with iron chains,
May He strengthen their souls and faith,
Protect them from all harm and disease,
Have mercy on His sons and daughters awaiting His salvation.
Nullify all cruel decrees from upon them
In His great kindness, may He hasten their redemption,
And may they quickly emerge from darkness to light,
And from the pit of captivity to the freedom of the world.
And return in peace to their families and to their homes,
Please, plant brotherhood, peace and friendship in the hearts of all
Remove envy and baseless hatred,
And spread over us the Sukkah of Your peace
And may we merit to soon sing before You a ‘New Song.

יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלִּפְנֵי אָבִינוּ שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם
אֲשֶׁר הוֹצִיא אֶת עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִתַּחַת סִבְלוֹת מִצְרַיִם
הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וְיִנְצֹר אֶת אַחֵינוּ וְאַחְיוֹתֵינוּ
הַחֲטוּפִים הָאֲסוּרִים בְּכַבְלֵי בַּרְזֶל
,יְחַזֵּק נַפְשָׁם וֶאֱמוּנָתָם
,יִשְׁמְרֵם מִכָּל נֶגַע וּמַחֲלָה
,יַחְמֹל עַל בָּנָיו וּבְנוֹתָיו הַמְּצַפִּים לִישׁוּעָתוֹ
.יְבַטֵּל מֵעֲלֵיהֶם כָּל גְּזֵרוֹת אַכְזָרִיּוֹת
בְּחַסְדּוֹ הַגָּדוֹל יָחִישׁ פְּדוּתָם וְיֵצְאוּ מְהֵרָה מֵאֲפֵלָה לְאוֹרָה
וּמִבּוֹר הַשְּׁבִי לְחֵרוּת עוֹלָם וְיָשׁוּבוּ לְשָׁלוֹם אֶל מִשְׁפְּחוֹתֵיהֶם וְאֶל בָּתֵּיהֶם
,אָנָּא, נֶטַע אַחֲוָה שָׁלוֹם וְרֵעוּת בְּלֵב כֻּלָּם
הָסֵר קִנְאָה וְשִׂנְאַת חִנָּם וּפְרֹס עָלֵינוּ סֻכַּת שְׁלוֹמֶךָ
.וְנִזְכֶּה בְּקָרוֹב לוֹמַר לְפָנֶיךָ שִׁירָה חֲדָשָׁה